We meet ourselves time and time again in a thousand guises on the path of life,
- Carl Jung
Put it another way...your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
Our human experience is the outcome of what we individually focus on. What we put the large part of our energies to use. If you're feeling content and happy inside, this is the energy you emit. And if we go by the law of attraction, this is also the kind of experience you'll invite into your immediate sphere of awareness. Contentment and happiness inside equals sparkly happy experience outside.
So one of my biggest challenges on this path to greater awareness is my habit of being judgy. Yep, sooo endemic for me, it's practically on autopilot. Cos I was quite the introvert, I used to be so shy it was painful. It didn't help when I was in my mid-teens, I was the newbie girl at school and I overheard another girl talk about my non-existent boobs, they thought I was a new Year 7 girl. I was actually starting Year 10. Of course, I didn't say anything. But my judgy self thought, gad she's about ready to burst out of her pinafore, its disgraceful...see I was just as bad. Just not as vocal. Being sensitive, I was acutely aware when others were thinking of me, good or bad, and I would silently make judgements about them back. When really I just wanted to be like them.
I was in a never ending cycle of being judgy and being judged, with no view of it ending. I'd see a girl on the street wearing clothes that I'd think are too skimpy, too revealing. Really I just wanted to be brave enough to also wear short skirts. And so on, so forth.
Ooh, yeah. And like most peeps, that's just one of my issues. We are many layered and many faceted, us folks. How did I sort it out? Who said its ended? Laughs. Out. Loud.
Well, it's mostly ended. Or rather, now that I'm aware of it, I consciously made a choice to not let it bother me anymore. How did I transform myself to be not so judgy? That's an entire blog post right there. But my point is, if there is something within you that you're uncomfortable about and you haven't sorted out within yourself, whether you're aware of it or not, you will encounter situations outside yourself designed to raise a reaction within you.
Another example...I used to get annoyed at "loud" people. I use this as a catch-all to describe anyone who literally has a loud voice, anyone with a direct, blunt no-nonsense speaking style, anyone who's not afraid of being heard regardless of who's listening and anyone who loves being the centre of attention, peacocks included. Being a quiet introvert who cared too much about what other people thought, I was frequently drowned out by the loud people. I was frequently silent.Then I realised something. These loud people who I found irritating were annoying me because I wanted to be more like them. I too wanted to be heard and I wanted to easily command attention, like they did. Once I got the why, I started to admire loud people. In fact, I started emulating them and they stopped getting on my nerves. Lesson learned and I overcame another pet peeve. Yay!
So which comes first? Your experiences in your outer world or you inner world? Moreover, how can we make changes to effect a more harmonious happy life all around?
Your thoughts, your feelings and your beliefs come first. Everything you experience inside you, that's where it all starts. You can change your thoughts in various ways. It's all about ensuring your sphere of awareness reinforces the new thoughts and beliefs you want.
You can do these by:
- Writing inspirational quotes on post-it notes and leaving them where you can easily see them, such as the mirror, the fridge, etc.
- Silently meditating on the aspects of yourself you feel need adjusting. These could be tiny or large. Or after a period of contemplation, you might actually come to the conclusion that you're fine just the way it is. No changes required.
- Saying out loud affirmations with the intent on expanding your awareness on a regular basis. I like mornings best and make it part of the morning routine.
- Knowing that every moment everyday is an opportunity to learn and setting the intention to become aware of it.
- Lastly, love and accept yourself no matter what. All the aspects of yourself you label as good or bad, are just that...labels. They are intrinsically what makes you unique and perfect. Don't mess with perfect.
Everything you encounter, everyone you meet has an impeccable purpose in your life. Whether it is to shine a light on your shadow aspect or to reinforce your growth, its all designed for your advancement. So it's all good!
From my vantage point, I see what I am and I'm loving it so far. Yep, you can borrow that mantra to use, too.