Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.
- Mandy Hale
Too often we get caught up in the moment of overwhelm and proceed to overthink. I, too, am just as prone to this habitual behaviour.
In a world where we’re expected to perform and deliver to the objectives we agreed to, us women (and men!) tend to want to give more. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the corporate world, you’re an entrepreneur or a stay-at-home parent. We want to give more, because it is in our very nature. We end up putting everyone else before ourselves. Everyday.
There is a fine line between doing the best you can and doing as much as you can to meet expectations. Yours? Theirs? Whoever’s expectations they are, it doesn’t really matter.
It starts to matter less when you’re body’s energy resources start to get depleted. We often fail to notice the signs. Mine usually compose of one or more of the following:
- I tire easily
- I start to crave 30 min naps after coming home from work
- I’m more readily irritated
- I get headaches
- I start to get sneezy & hayfevery
- I begin comfort eating, gah!
- I make excuses not to exercise
Last and this is a biggie for me, I start pressing the snooze button multiple times in the morning. This happens when when I’m not bouncing out of bed, ready to greet the new day anymore.
That biggie tell-all for me is my doozy sign, cos usually the voice in my head is also telling me to take a day off and rest. Have a mental health day. Play hooky. Schlep around in pyjamas all day. Bludge and don’t feel guilty! Because my body needs to rest and soak up some chi to help tackle the next day.
But, noooo! Like all self-respecting worker bees, I talk myself into the usual dialogue. If I don’t get up and go, the work will pile up and there will be a backlog of work to do. I don’t want to let my boss and everyone else down. They depend on my output. My level of my output and the quality of my work is my calling card. Where will I be if I start to slack off now?
So you see what I do? A neverending spiral downwards of overthinking, to talk myself into following the expectations of the norm and bloody get my hide off to the office, dammit! This is programming we have in our minds which is seriously counter-productive to our health. We…definitely I, need to cultivate awareness of this more and more. And learn to gain the upper hand and not be a slave to this mental program. I just got knocked out by a perfect storm of events, dust allergies from a recent re-carpeting exercise in the office causing bad hayfever, viral infection care of the husband, triggering the almost dormant asthma and severely compromised immune system ready for you guessed it…kapow! Not nice. So I’m still working on listening to my gut too. Sheesh.
Well, I know what my challenge for this week is. Listen and honour my body. Do everything it tells me is for its highest good. Because without your health, you can’t pursue the work you love, you can’t be in the company of the peeps you enjoy and importantly, you're unable to be in any position to help anyone else. You have to help yourself first.
Mega, mega big lesson for me! Hope it sticks this time and hope this post has given you an aha moment, too.