The bones and tendons of the mind are mindfulness and awareness. Mindfulness is the mind’s strength, and awareness is its flexibility. Without these abilities, we cannot function. When we drink a glass of water, drive a car, or have a conversation, we are using mindfulness and awareness.
- Sakyong Mipham
When we’re trying to manifest something new into our lives, thoughts come first, speech second. The little reminder from childhood talks to the unspoken belief that if you don’t want to make real what you just said, best to take it back. Because our language in of itself carries its own vibration, with each word we use corresponding to a specific frequency, we attract that vibe with continued use. Words such as love, peace, beauty, shine, excitement and infinite, evoke a feeling of lightness and expansion. On the opposite end of the scale, words such as hate, venom, outrage, evil and violence give you a low vibe and a sense of contraction. When you're feeling low, that’s you wanting to curl yourself into the smallest ball.
Here’s a few examples I’ve encountered at work and at home….and you bet, I place the spotlight on the self-limiting habitual phrase when my husband says it, too.
- I’m sick and tired of going around in circles in this job – this person is headed for the chronic fatigue zone if they’re not careful,
- So-and-so is a major pain in the neck – say this often enough and you’ll get a sore neck,
- This place is going to be the death of me – not a good phrase to hang on to. This person needs a change of scenery, stat.
- He’s a pain the arse – ouch!
Let me emphasise that I refer to the phrases you constantly replay in your head and verbally out of habit. On the other hand, if you’re just venting once in a while, then you’re actually releasing the energy out of your system. This is a good thing! Good on you!
So if you want to attract the best of what life has to offer, including an optimal level of health and wellbeing, start by bringing your awareness to how you express yourself in conversation. Practice mindfulness while you’re talking. Listen to your speech as if you’re the one listening. What words do you tend to use? Can you replace the words with different ones?
Here are a few ways to change your speech for the better. There’s lots of different methods. I suggest you practice a few and see what sits most comfortably. Next time you say “I suck at this”, you can
- Shake your head, as if you’re getting rid of the thought out of your energy field, or
- See if you can catch the thought before you verbalise it and replace it with, “I love this” or “I’m okay with this”, or
- During a quiet moment, contemplate what images arise when you repeat that offending phrase. Tell yourself you want to banish that phrase from your mind. If you get a droopy flower, then send some sunlight and watch it come to life, or
- Visualise the phrase itself in your mind, then snap your fingers and watch it disappear in a poof of sparkly light, or
- Same as above you can visualise the phrase in your mind, then send a homing missile and watch it explode into smithereens.
You can even turn this exercise into something fun and creative.
So, because a healthy mind and a healthy body goes hand-in-hand, developing an on-going awareness of what you think and what you say is one of the keys to better health and happiness. It’s like having a chaperone looking out for you and filtering what goes through your mind before you speak it out loud.
Commit to bringing more awareness to watching the things you think and say, before you think and say them. You’ll be surprised at how many of these thoughts and dialogues are habitual and not really what you believe in. You might even get to know yourself better. Cool, isn’t it?!